Friday, February 14, 2014
Patricia Cone recalls growing up as an only child. She never really clicked with any of the boys her age, saying they came off as “silly” to her; she felt she was a little more mature for her age.
But then there was her future husband Ed, with whom she grew up in the Summerville area. He was nine years older than her but Patricia said she felt like he met that “quota” of being an older, more mature gentleman.
Today Ed and Patricia Cone celebrate their 50th Valentine’s Day as husband and wife, but their relationship goes beyond 50 years.
The Cones tied the knot on Dec. 20, 1963 at Knightsville United Methodist Church. The couple has two sons.
Patricia said that over the years she has learned care and trust are two of the biggest factors that contribute to a long marriage.
“I would say the first thing is you have to care about the person before you get married,” she said.
Patricia added that communication is very important as well, and there will definitely be many times within a marriage when spouses need to talk to each other and learn to forgive each other.
“There are ups and downs in marriage,” she said. “You have to work through your problems. Communication is important – and forgiveness, I think that is very important.”
George and Eileen Beckett celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary on Feb. 8. The couple have four children and seven grandchildren, and have lived in Summerville since 1978.
Eileen said commitment is the key to having a long, healthy marriage.
“Commitment, definitely, and giving each other space to be an individual also,” she said.
George said married couples should take long trips together, just the two of them, and not give up working and doing things together at the end.
“Make sure both people have jobs so you’re not together constantly,” he said, “and still go out on dates, and have the children and grandchildren come over.”
George also said once the children moved out he and his wife grew closer as they got more one-on-one time and continued to do things together.
“The last 25 years have gotten better and better,” he said.
Robert and Jeanette Burditt celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary on Feb. 6.
Jeanette said to be able to compromise helps build a strong relationship between spouses. Jeanette loves to ballroom dance, so her husband learned how to dance. Likewise, Robert likes to play bridge, so she learned how to play bridge as well.
“You need to respect each other and be friends as well as lovers,” she said. “Just make sure you talk to each other.”
The Burditts have four children and three grandchildren. They lived in Tennessee for more than 40 years and moved to Summerville following their 50th anniversary.
Robert said patience is a crucial part of a long marriage.
“You have to be able to put up with the bad as well as the good,” he said. “There are good days as well as bad days. It’s worth it in the end.”